nodejs: use --with-intl=small-icu

Fixes broken unicode property escapes used in some projects

```js
var UP = /[\p{Lu}]/u;
```

Compile time addition: ~1 minute (total is 10+ minutes)

Size addition:

```diff
-50MB	total
+60MB	total
```

extra/nodejs/build

@@ -11,7 +11,7 @@ esac
 ./configure \
     --shared-zlib \
     --shared-openssl \
-    --with-intl=none \
+    --with-intl=small-icu \
     --without-report \
     --without-node-snapshot \
     --without-node-code-cache \